If you’ve ever wondered whether you can heal something you can’t fully remember – this conversation is for you.

There’s something that happens when trauma lives below the surface for long enough. It doesn’t disappear. It just finds other ways to move through you – through your relationships, emotional waves, thought-patterns you keep bumping into without knowing where they started.

That’s exactly where this week’s conversation began.

When Healing Starts Before You Know You Need It

Eboni Banks repressed sexual trauma for 18 years. Not suppressed – repressed. Meaning her mind didn’t consciously decide to set it aside. Her subconscious did it for her, quietly and completely, until she had built enough safety inside herself to hold it.

And here’s what struck me most about her story – the healing started long before the memory surfaced. Years of yoga, prayer, meditation, and crystal therapy were doing something inside that she couldn’t see yet. Her subconscious was already moving toward wholeness before her conscious mind had any idea what was coming.

She was on the phone with a friend one day when it just came out of her mouth. Just like that. Eighteen years later.

I think so many of us are walking around wondering why we feel the way we feel, why certain patterns keep showing up, why some places inside us just won’t open – and the answer is often that something is still waiting for the right conditions to surface.

Intuition Is Not What You Think It Is

Eboni’s work centers on something I think gets misunderstood constantly – intuition. We tend to imagine it as this mystical, rare thing that only certain people have access to. Eboni is actively dismantling that idea.

As an intuition coach and intuitive healing mentor, she helps people understand that intuition is information. It comes from our most loving, most intelligent inner aspect – and unlike the brain, it will never lie to you, talk down to you, or send you in a harmful direction.

Her intuition was the thing quietly guiding her to the yoga mat, to the prayer, to the community, to the healing – before she had a single conscious reason to go there.

What Lives In The Lineage

One of my favorite parts of this conversation was when Eboni traced her intuitive gifts back through her family line – to a great grandmother who read palms for a living in the Jim Crow South, who owned her home and supported herself entirely through that work.

Eboni didn’t even know about her until she was in her twenties. And when she found out, everything started to make more sense.

It reminded me of my own moment – when my grandmother handed me a laminated journal on Easter, written by my great-great-grandmother, titled “the daughter of no one.” I was deep in my own healing around unworthiness at the time. The timing of it cracked something open in me.

We carry so much more than we realize. The gifts and the wounds both travel through the bloodline. And part of healing is learning to sort through what was handed to you – what you want to reclaim and what you’re ready to finally put down.

Coming Back To Yourself, Practically

What I love about Eboni is that she doesn’t keep any of this in the clouds. Her book, Your Intuitive Nudge, is built entirely on practical, logical steps for reconnecting with your intuition – because she believes, and I agree, that this work has to be livable.

Her number one practice? Spending time alone. Not distracted alone. Not scrolling alone. Just – alone. With nothing on. Letting your inner world show you what’s there.

It sounds simple. And it is. But in a world that keeps us constantly stimulated, choosing to sit with yourself is one of the most radical things you can do.

That’s where the real conversation with your intuition begins.

This Episode Is For You If…

You’ve been carrying something you can’t fully name. You’ve felt disconnected from your own instincts. You’ve wondered whether healing is even possible for the things you can’t consciously access.

Eboni’s answer – and mine too, after everything I’ve moved through – is yes. The body knows. The subconscious is already working. And the path back to yourself is more available than you’ve been told.

This conversation reminded me of that in the best way.

Tune in tomorrow for the full episode to hear Eboni’s story and her approach to intuition, lineage, solitude, and what it actually looks like to come back home to yourself.

Xoxo, Lauren